So it happened. Even though I was (kind of) expecting it, I still think she is far too young! Even though it’s the most natural thing to happen in a girl’s life, you’re still never 100% prepared when it’s your little girl. My beautiful, eldest daughter, who is 11 years old, shouted me last week: “muummmmyyy come here”,and I just knew what was coming as I walked up the stairs. She is a big girl for her age and, although very athletic, she is very well developed (well, far more so than I or my mum was!). “I think I have started my period”. She looked a little shaken but to be honest, quite composed.
She is such lovely, patient, polite girl (or should I say young lady now?). In some ways she is quite mature, but in lots of others not so! I am always telling her to sit up and close her legs and “sit like a lady”! And she is probably a messier eater than my 3 year old! Oh, and she hates washing her hair! It’s naturally curly so it doesn’t look great if she doesn’t look after it. I think all this will change when she goes to secondary school as there will be boys, which I’m sure she will start noticing sooner or later! Hopefully later!!! I looked at her little face, asked if she was ok and gave her a big hug. As we were on holiday at the time the first thing she asked me was “does this mean I can’t go swimming?”, bless her.
I had explained everything to Halle a few years ago as she started asking me questions. I was pregnant with Lola and I told her about the birds the bees, as well as everything that us women have to go through on a monthly basis…boys just have it so easy! She took it all in her stride and went on her way. I have always believed that, when your child asks questions about nature and the facts of life, there is little point in filling their head with rubbish. Maybe if more parents were straight talking about things like this we may have less teenage pregnancies? Too many young people think silly things, like ‘you can’t get pregnant the first time’!? I feel it’s our responsibility as parents to educate our children on such a sensitive matter and it shouldn’t just be left for the classroom. A room full of teens sniggering and laughing and not paying attention because they are too embarrassed isn’t overly useful to anyone! Don’t get me wrong, I feel sex education in school is very important, but it’s not usually done until mid secondary school. I think even though we all hope our children wouldn’t even be thinking of having any sexual relationships until a lot later, we all know it happens! It seems girls are developing earlier now and by the time they hit year 6, for some, a talk, is just a little too late.
I am lucky enough to have had a very open relationship with my mum and always felt I could tell her anything (well most things! Ha!) This has allowed me to be the same with my girls and I am so grateful for this as I know it isn’t always the case. Anyway, she had a bit of a tummy ache, and for a day or two she was a bit quieter than her normal bubbly self; nothing that lots of mummy cuddles couldn’t sort out and she definitely didn’t let it spoil her holiday! I am just praying the mood swings don’t kick in next month!
I am so proud of her as she grows before my eyes and it makes me so emotional. She is beautiful inside and out with a sensitive and kind soul! I sit watching her organise her sisters and their friends. Halle has the ability to command the attention of all the girls; usually by making up dances with them (it’s like she already has her own little dance school going on). She is the best big sister my other two could ever wish for, and the best eldest daughter a mother could ever wish for!